Following on from my previous post here’s a bit more about goals.
Now just imagine for one moment that you can travel forward to a time when you’ve reached your goal. Enjoy spending some time there noticing how you experience life when you’ve made the changes you want to make.
But Mandy, I hear you say, It’s all seems so huge, I can’t see a way to get there. Well as Lao-tzu says:
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”
I have worked with many clients who have felt overwhelmed by their situation and when you are supported to break the whole journey down into manageable steps you will begin to move forward, developing new skills and resources and finding that each step becomes so much easier. At some point you’ll realise that you’ve built up momentum and then one day you’ll stop noticing each step as you begin to enjoy the ease of living the life you had once imagined and hoped for.
If you would like to have a chat about your situation or find out a bit more about how I work please do not hesitate to get in touch.
When I work with a client we spend time exploring and understand goals. What it is that brings you to coaching, what you want to achieve and what difference this will make.
Sometimes we set out on a journey with only a vague idea of where we want to go or just knowing where we don’t want to be. Although this can be exciting there is also a high probability that you’ll end up somewhere that isn’t what you thought it would be or that is equally as uncomfortable as the place you just came from. Or worse still you won’t have moved at all.
However, when you spend a bit of time working out exactly where you are heading for and whether it’s the right place for you, the chances of actually getting there and liking it are so much higher. This is even more likely if you’ve checked you’ve got the right kit before you set out and that your destination is actually accessible.
It’s the same with what you want in life – in your relationships, confidence, motivation, feelings, behaviours, your responses to difficult situations and so on. Having a clear, positive goal that is within your control is so much more likely to result in success.
If it’s time for you to move forward and you would like to find out more about what I can do for you please get in touch. Contact me here
The Ah-Ha moment – it happens in a flash but its impact can cast a light across a whole life, making it impossible to go back to old patterns of behaviour that suddenly seem so redundant.
And the trigger?
Usually a very small facet of a recollection, a perception, or the glimpse of a new interpretation and yet it makes such a difference.
This ‘Whoo – how come I never saw this before moment’ is something I experience again and again with clients and is a very powerful step towards you opening doors to new possibilities.
This is the beauty of using NLP tools in the context of a life coaching experience as it helps us join the dots and make more sense of our lives and the patterns that have prevailed. And then through the many positive tools NLP offers we can re-evaluate our experiences and develop new patterns of thinking and behaviour.
Our personal perspective is only one of many. Near where I live in the sea-side town of Whitley Bay there is a main road which demonstrates this so well. I never cease to be surprised and startled by the ginormous ships that are waiting off the coast to come into the Tyne. Surely they couldn’t possibly even get through the pier walls. And even though I know it’s an illusion I can’t help myself, my planned destination suddenly escapes my attention and I find myself driving down to the sea-front to find the ‘monster’ ship. Of course it’s not there – and what I see as I rest my hand on the railing and look out to sea is a ship just like all the others waiting its turn to bring in its cargo of goods.
Often, like the ship that we falsely believe we will never get through the pier walls because our problem or experiences have become too big, we can’t focus on anything else and the size of it casts a shadow over everything in our lives. This is how NLP can help you because it helps you accept the possibility that this is not the only truth. And when you break your anchors and shift your perspective you can recognise the true scale and impact of your experiences, you can see all the other ships and can even consider how they see you as they look back through their binoculars.
Now casting your eye out even further – NLP can help you vision new horizons and new amazing potential of new lands and continents that lie ahead of you. And as you gather more information and reassess your current reality the choices begin to open up and you can begin to move forward with the great gift of learning that life constantly and graciously offers you.
The combination of NLP tools (and hypnotherapy when appropriate) within the process of the life coaching sessions I offer at SYNERGY Healing, Whitley Bay can help you to know yourself and give you the confidence and flexibility to voyage into a future of continued learning and growth, achieving whatever it is that is right for you as you move forward.
If you feel the time is now right to change your direction then I would be delighted to help you navigate your way. My name is Mandy Robinson and I offer a whole range of NLP, Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy tools within my practice at SYNERGY Healing, Whitley Bay.
Your first consultation with me is free so that you can decide if what I offer resonates with what you need and each appointment thereafter is £35.00. Contact Mandy
Have a look at the Synergy Healing Website where this piece was first posted
Sometimes we can become so consumed by the experiences and situations in our life that we can’t seem to move forward and take control. Behaviours that are anchored in the past drain us of all our energy and enthusiasm and we feel stuck. Our self-esteem becomes affected, we feel overwhelmed and our confidence to make even the simplest choices about our future becomes compromised. Knots that used to be so easy to untangle now appear too huge to even begin to unravel.
This is the point in your life where coaching and its ability to help you connect the dots to a new reality could be really useful to you. By providing the structure to untangle and stretch out all the different strands, knots and blockages in your life, we can then begin to put together a whole new connection of possibilities.
By enabling you to view your experiences and current situation from a range of different perspectives, life coaching can help you undertake a true and positive critical examination of your current reality. And by ensuring that your future vision is aligned with your current reality, I can help you to identify a range of options which could open up real possibility for change.
There are times when we all need advice or to hear about the experiences of others, especially when it comes to a specialist area of expertise. Advice however, can often be given as a misguided opinion and when opinions are not fact they need to be closely examined before they play a role in your future plans. Life coaching therefore encourages you to identify the choices that meet your needs, and by exploring and connecting the dots of your life experiences you can then begin to choose the world in which you want to live in.
Being listened to in the way that a coach is trained to listen is empowering. It validates your experiences and acknowledges you as the expert in your life. And as you begin to tap into your own inner wisdom you will begin to see life as a series of stepping-stones to growth and creativity rather than as a minefield of obstacles. Life coaching helps you set aside your negative patterns so that you can connect the positive dots of your life together again. You gain a better understanding of yourself and the knowledge that you have the resources to respond to the opportunities that your life is waiting to give you.
My name is Mandy Robinson and I am available for life coaching, NLP, Hypnotherapy and untangling knots at SYNERGY Healing, Whitley Bay on Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays.
Please email me at for more information or to book your first life coaching session - Contact Mandy
Why not have a look at http://synergywhitleybay.wordpress.com (where this article was originally posted)
Chris Bowman and I are delighted to have a new therapist joining us to work from 80 Whitley Road. Zara Cordella brings her skills and expertise as an energy healing massage therapist and heralds a new phase in our work together. At the same time we’ve had a bit of a “makeover” and have a new name. So with the focus on healing mind, body and spirit we are now pleased to welcome clients to the Synergy Healing Centre. http://synergywhitleybay.wordpress.com/
Energy healing massage uses specialised strokes, rhythmic moves and gentle holding techniques to release pain, blocked emotions and to relax muscles. More information can be found on Zara’s website: http://zaracordella.wordpress.com
Zara brings new skills and experience along with her great enthusiasm and joy for life. We look forward to working with her and thank her for joining us at Synergy Healing.
There you are, it wasn’t a “new you” that made a choice and did that, it was YOU! You with all your experiences, skills, resources, curiosity, thinking, feelings, highs, lows, everything and all that you are. Yes of course you might want to have new and different things in the New Year; new ways of being, new places, new people, new jobs, new this, new that. But my guess is that you already have within you everything that you need to achieve whatever it is that you yearn for so much. It is just that living, people, beliefs and other stuff have added so many layers of experience (good and not so good) that you no longer recognise who you really are, and who you can be. Honestly, it’s all there – you just need to ask the right questions!
Over the festive season I read The Secrets of Meditation by davidji*. In it he refers to asking the Soul Questions: Who am I? What do I want? and What is my purpose?
These are subjects that we also explore within a coaching context. Getting new perspectives and greater insight into these fundamental questions enables us to understand why we respond to our lives as we do. It allows us to open up and recognise opportunities and to make choices that sit comfortably with who we are, what we want and what our purpose is (at whatever level(s) you choose to experience purpose).
Having dreams, goals and aspirations is a good thing, but not at the cost of trading in your old self for a new one (it’s just not sustainable). Knowing, understanding and loving (yes, loving) your true self will provide a steady foundation for all the transformations that you will experience in your life.
Let’s make 2013 the year where we all get to understand our inner-selves (motivations, emotions, aspirations, strengths, values and dreams) even better and experience lots of new and wonderful ways of being.
Wishing you a glorious New Year – Mandy.
(*Secrets of Meditation – I loved the book, practical, pulled together a lot of concepts and ideas for me and was very inspiring).
I used to work with June and have visited the Skylight Centre on more than one occasion. I cannot tell you how much I think this charity deserves a vote. See also www.crisis.org.uk.
People’s Postcode Trust wants to award £30,000 to the public’s favourite charities. We’ve selected 6 amazing charities from across North East England, each competing for a top prize of £15,000 as well runner up prizes of £10,000 and £5,000. The charity with the most votes wins. See www.votethatcounts.org.
June Grimes, Director of Crisis Skylight Newcastle, said: “We are over the moon to be nominated to be a part of the competition – but we need our supporters to make sure we get the highest number of votes and secure the funding.
“£15,000 would make a huge difference to us at Crisis Skylight Newcastle. We could pay for our entire Christmas service, providing hot meals, warmth, companionship and advice on how to move away from homelessness. Not only that but this money would pay for life-changing services well into the New Year.”
Voting opens on Monday 29 October and closes at midnight on Sunday 18 November. Please take just two minutes to make your vote count for Crisis Skylight Newcastle.
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Restoring Balance & Harmony – Managing Stress, Anxiety & Depression for a More Effective Life
Any feelings such as stress, depression, or anxiety are a natural part of everyday life and under certain circumstances, can be useful to help us to manage life by showing us where and when we are off-balance and by giving us the motivation to change or move forward. Emotions are the body’s guidance system, letting us know where we are heading or if we are ‘off course’. They only become a problem to us if we do not understand what is happening, why it is happening, or do not have the tools to cope with managing the feelings themselves. If we become over-whelmed by our emotions, we can become fearful, anxious, feel out of control, angry and/or depressed (depression is caused by suppressed anger we do not feel entitled to feel) and our lives can become affected in all sorts of ways.
However, there are many ways to help you cope, from the conventional medical approach, counselling, and exercise, to a wide range of natural healing therapies and practices such as the ones offered at UNITY in Whitley Bay.
At UNITY, we take a ‘whole-being’ approach and offer a range of therapies and practices that work well on their own or in conjunction with more traditional treatments. Aiming to restore balance and harmony for a more effective life, these include: Energy Healing, Hypnotherapy, NLP, Coaching, Massage, Sound Healing, EFT, Reiki Drumming, Chakra Balancing, Meditation Practice and Workshops. In this edition, a couple of the practitioners working at UNITY explain how their approach can help:
Mandy Robinson, Life Coach & Hypnotherapist:
Whether in the schoolroom or the workplace, stress and anxiety are part of everyday life and it’s how we respond to them that makes the difference. When unwanted feelings take over and get in the way of a life well-lived, regaining control is easier said than done. But what if you could stop for one moment, unravel that knot of distress, stretch it out and examine it to see exactly how you experience a difficult emotion, and then how you might do it in a way that is better for you. We do have the internal resources to do this. An experienced NLP coach will help you gain perspective and hypnotherapy enables you to access all your personal resources making that difference to your life.
Positive Approaches to Stress & Anxiety
3 Hour Workshop with Mandy Robinson
Saturday, 21st April, 1.30 – 4.30pm
Saturday, 19th May, 1.30 – 4.30pm
Further Details: www.mandyrobinsoncoaching.co.uk or
call Mandy on 07763 781041 to book your place.
Dr Chris Bowman, Energy Healer:
Energy healing channels positive universal energy into the body on a mental, emotional, spiritual and physical level helping to boost a sense of well-being and release blocked energy. A natural, gentle, relaxing and non-invasive form of healing, sessions last approximately one hour. For more details go to www.chrisbowmanenergyhealer.com. Or call Chris Bowman on 07925 188534
Restoring Harmony & Re-Balancing Energy
1-day Healing Workshop with Wendy Robinson
Sunday 29th April, 11am – 4pm. Cost £35
Do you feel like you are going round in circles? That no matter what you do, things don’t seem to improve or change? Do you want to start feeling more in control of your life and feelings? Do you want to free yourself from thoughts and experiences that no longer feel comfortable or helpful? Through a series of practical sessions and techniques that you can take with you and use at home, this workshop will help you to cope more effectively, release yourself from old patterns to find new direction, and ultimately discover a higher state of Consciousness.
T: Wendy on 07792 008716 to book your place.
UNITY, 80 Whitley Road, Whitley Bay
Please call to find out more about all the exciting workshops, classes and therapies we offer at UNITY.
New Year, New You and a New Location for UNITY Therapy Centre
Having had a successful 15 months in Monkseaton, UNITY has moved to larger premises in Whitley Bay. With
its purpose built consulting rooms and larger space, we can offer clients and therapists a wider range of
complementary therapies, courses, and training in calm and relaxing surroundings.
The following article appeared in the February ABC Magazine and was written by my colleague, Wendy Robinson
The way you think and feel can really affect your life, your health, your weight, your performance, and your happiness. Our mind, body and spirit are closely interconnected and if one aspect of us is out of balance, our health and well-being can be knocked out of balance too. At the UNITY therapy centre, we focus on treating you as a ‘whole-being’, offering therapies and consultations that support the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of the person. It is our aim is to get to the root cause of the problem rather than just dealing with the symptom, so that you can start to feel better.
Our thoughts and feelings come about as a result of our life experiences, and patterns, expectations and beliefs that we have formed or learned. Some can even be carried over from past life experiences. And of course, other people and outside influences, such as world affairs and the media, can impact on the way we feel and think. Most of you have probably heard the term ‘Think Positive’ to change your life/health/relationships etc, but just thinking something, although a crucial part of change, is not always enough to create the shift you may be looking for. This is because we are not always aware of what our older under-lying thoughts and beliefs are. They can be deeply buried in our sub-conscious, happily running in the background like an old computer programme, sabotaging any new intentions or thoughts you may have. Our physical body too holds on to memories (called cellular memory) and these can attract replays of past experiences and health issues until they are cleared out (an example of this for me was a recurring pattern of car accidents at a particular time of year until I cleared out the original accident from my energy field).
At UNITY, we offer a range of energy healing therapies, training and workshops that are aimed to help, guide, and support the client on their journey to health and well-being. Embarking on any form of life shift, whether it is to feel better, be healthier, cope better, be less stressed, lose weight, improve performance etc can seem like beginning a climb up Everest – an almost impossible task. The fear may be over-whelming and the task may seem unachievable. That’s where the therapists at UNITY can help. Our therapists are like experienced guides who know the way and have the tools to help you to gently make your journey at your own pace.
Soul Coaching – a soul coaching session helps you to discover your soul purpose and open the heart to your true self. It can uncover blocks and issues that may be holding you back from experiencing your true potential and fulfilment, and provides you with tools to move forward. Email email@example.com
Energy Healing – is a safe, natural and non-invasive healing system that channels universal life force energy through the practitioner to the client by the gentle placement of hands over the clients body. It enhances the body’s own healing process and works on the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual levels. Not just for ill health, energy healing helps to maintain good health and invoke feelings of relaxation and well-being. www.chrisbowmanenergyhealer.com
Hypnotherapy – thought to have been practiced since ancient Egyptian times, hypnotherapy has long been used to help with a wide range of issues, from wanting to think more positively to overcoming fears and phobias. Hypnotherapy isn’t a cure – what it does do is help the client to change the way they think, removing obstacles that are stopping them making the changes they desperately want and need.
Life Coaching – helps people to take control of their lives whether that’s in relationships, work, self-confidence etc. A life coach works with you to help you stay motivated and committed to reaching your goals. It’s all about finding ways to enhance and identify qualities you have but may not be making the most of. Once you have decided what you want in life, life coaching sets achievable goals and motivates you to achieve them. www.mandyrobinsoncoaching.co.uk
UNITY, 80 Whitley Road, Whitley Bay, Tyne and Wear, NE26 2NE